Updated Posts About Healing, Spiritual Ego, and the Spiritual Path

At the time of this post, I've been blogging for almost 8 straight years. That's a lot of spiritual blog posts. Some have stood the test of time, and some have become dated in terms of how I share my thoughts about spirituality. As such, I've been taking time to re-work some of these older posts … [Read Entire Story]

Being Spiritually Ready Versus Prepared

Today's topic is aimed to help separate two very different concepts that get co-mingled. One is about being ready, and the other is about being prepared. Very often, these two ideas are merged together, but I think in the context of spiritual awakening that it is important to separate them with distinct meanings.It's so common for people to have experiences they aren't prepared for and for which their soul is ready, and it's equally common for spiritual seekers to have done tons of preparation and have nothing really emerge. It's kind of like making a baby. By a woman's mid teens, her body is ready. Is she financially, emotionally, intellectually, … [Read Entire Story]

Focusing on the Wrong Pain, the Wrong Issues

Everybody has different kinds of comfort zones, and somepeople are already comfortable and able to work through certain types of pain and discomfort. For instance, an ultra-marathoner may know all about physical pain. She can push herself through excruciating segments of a long race and has little to no fear of her body's limits. But then, she runs up against an issue of the heart. Maybe it's a man she's been longing after but can't express it. Maybe it's an inability to speak… [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: Spiritual Awakening and Hypersensitivity

Spiritual awakening rips the bandages off our wounds, and the subsequent healing process starts a powerful transformation in how we feel about all of life. The more wounds we have, the more upsetting sensations can be. This kind of hypersentivity can lead many people to wrongly think that something is wrong. But really, the loss of numbness now can lead towards true healing.While most people are used to seeking relief, releasing issues is a whole other level of feeling. The intensity of it can be surprising, but of course releasing an issue allows us to be done with it. No further numbing or avoidance is needed to feel okay. We feel okay because we are healed and… [Read Entire Story]

Taking Your Intuition in for a Tune-up

Intuition is our direct connection to our divine knowing. It's the place where our humanness and oneness merge, and it is a fountain of wisdom.However, most of us aren't really that clear when we start using intuition. Actually, a lot of intuitions are just unconscious mental associations. By that, I meant that our past impressions of people and situations often subtly inform our feelings about them, and then many people assume that feeling is intuition. If you had a bad experience with tall women when you were a child and forgot about that, you may have a "bad" feeling about tall women and assume this is intuition. These… [Read Entire Story]

A Second Spiritual Awakening and Finally Finding Guidance

Life is full of interesting phenomena, isn't it? One interesting phenomenon that I've heard about on and off for the last several years is the occurrence of a second spiritual awakening. It's quite extraordinary for someone to have even one spiritual awakening, much less a second. But in this universe of infinite possibilities who is to… [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: Learning to Work Through the Layers Part 2

I offered this talk not too long ago, but I had to cut it short due to being sick and not having a lot of voice. Since it was really popular, I wanted to return to this subject and hopefully go into more depth as well as answer a few more of your questions than I was able to do last time.For those who are new to the topic, this conversation revolves around … [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: Awakening to Action

People are often confused by the idea of “non-action.” Many think that this means we don’t take any action at all, but I think it’s pretty clear that spiritual people take actions all the time. Acting in this world is a prerequisite of living it.But initially, the primarily encouragement for people on the spiritual path is to go within and reduce the … [Read Entire Story]

The Neglected Spiritual Awakening and its Results

I want to start by saying that I cannot predict how anything unfolds for another in life much less on their spiritual path. Today's topic about what arises for some people after a neglected spiritual awakening may reflect some people's experiences or it may not. This spiritual awakening post, however, is a reminder that certain moments in our lives are particularly precious, and… [Read Entire Story]

A Short Spiritual Thought: Spiritual Redemption

Spiritual awakening and spiritual growth remind us that no matter where someone has been or how difficult the path, they can grow and change to be happier, healthier, and kinder people. There is no depth of darkness to which people can sink from which they cannot arise again, and this is very good news. It is the nature of the Divine to never reject any one of us, and ultimately, we are all in this together.However, sometimes society pigeon-holes people, and people can feel trapped by all their past transgressions. Even after they’ve done a lot of personal growth or even awakened, past mistakes or gross errors (murder, rape, etc.) can haunt a person. To … [Read Entire Story]

A Pebble in the Pond

Sometimes in life, your life starts to completely change itself over without you realizing it. It's a little pebble that got dropped into your pond, and a small ripple ran out from it. In most circumstances, that ripple runs out of energy and dissipates. The pond remains the same. But every now and then and with a little bit of grace, a pebble … [Read Entire Story]

Assigning Your Pain to Another

I often talk about projecting our issues as well as our desires and love onto other people and situations. It's like we break ourselves into these little pieces and fling them on to everyone else. Then we go through this elaborate game of trying to recollect all these pieces back (well, at least the good ones).With the painful ones, we try to avoid the situations and people who seem to be the bringers of pain, and putting aside… [Read Entire Story]

Spirituality Webinar: Releasing Issues

I talk a lot about releasing issues on this blog, so it is fitting to have a webinar focused on this topic. Whether it is grief, physical trauma, a past relationship that ended badly, or another old pain that is still stuck in us, it has to be released for us to be spiritually free. This plane accepts no carry-on baggage, and most of humanity is carrying quite a bit.In an interesting way, however, releasing an issue is often more of a transmutation of energy. All that grief dissolves into bliss. All that pain melts into joy. It may seem ironic, but the truth of the matter is that… [Read Entire Story]

February 2014 Local Talk and Meditation

This February I'll be hosting a free talk called, "Opening Your Heart to Difficult Moments." So often, I get questions about how to deal with difficulties from death to trauma to troublesome co-workers to bad relationship break-ups. All of these moments and more require us to be open-hearted to fully be with the moment and to naturally release it. Otherwise, we tend to hold onto these things and torture ourselves with "what-if" statements and mental regurgitation that serves no purpose but to continue our suffering.Obviously, being open-hearted in a difficult moment doesn't always mean that we enjoy it, so in this talk, I'll offer some ideas about becoming heart… [Read Entire Story]

Student Perspectives on Working with Jim Tolles

I know that stepping into a session with me can be a new and sometimes unsettling experience (both in good and upsetting ways). Below I've posted my student Brandy's suggestions on how to prepare for a session with me. At the time of this posting, she's worked with me for over a year, having had regular biweekly one-on-one sessions, gone to some of my webinars, participated in a small online group of mine, and attended a weekend one-on-one intensive with me.I'll add other students' perspectives on working with me from time to time as well. I hope this is helpful for those who are about to work with me… [Read Entire Story]

San Francisco Bay Area Hike and Talk

This May I'm setting up a hike and spirituality talk for those in the San Francisco Bay Area. It can be a nice way to get out of our busy lives and back into nature, and it helps to get people out of their minds and back into their bodies. This often adds to people's receptivity to spiritual talks.Spirituality Hike and Talk General DetailsHere is more information on the hike that I have planned.Participants: 4 to 5Date: Sunday, May 19thStart Time: 9:30am PSTApproximate End Time: 1:30pm [Read Entire Story]

Uncovering and Debunking Cultural Gender Stereotypes

One of the truths of the spiritual path is that we are all One. We are that which simply IS. From that space, the whole gender identity thing doesn't make much sense. Traits that are associated with men or women are completely made up, and yet people cling to them rather ferociously. It's not that we go into a denial of the sex we are. I am male; I'm very clear about that. But much of the rest is completely up to us, and so for many people as they delve deeply into themselves, at some point or another, you will become confronted with the social and cultural lies of how you … [Read Entire Story]

Meet Me on the Playground

There are many different phases that people go through as they embody the awakened awareness that simply is. One of which is often a total lack of interest in the world around them. I’ve written a little bit about this in the blog titled: "Feeling Awakened and Lost: Finally Seeing the World’s Many Lies." When you awaken and see that most of the rest of the world isn’t living a life of [Read Entire Story]

Controlling the Uncontrollable

It’s been some time since I’ve written directly about control, but it’s another important topic to grapple with. My last blog about it–and I think my only post, actually–was April 2012 in a post called, “The Illusion of Control.” “Control,” to me, is one of the dirty words of the spiritual path … [Read Entire Story]