The Dangers of Criticism – Do You Do it More Than You Realise?

Criticism can become such an ingrained habit we aren’t even aware it is one, or defend ourselves if we are accused of it (critical people tend to be very self-protective, for reasons outlined below). But understanding and changing a habit of criticising others can be a life changer.  Why is criticism such a big deal? … [Read Entire Story]

Attachment Styles- Why Knowing Yours Can Change Your Relationships

Relationships are as much about being with someone else as they are about being apart from that person. A lot of relationship negotiation is about separation. Can I go on a trip alone with some friends? Should I expect a call if you are arriving late? If something happens to me, will you manage to … [Read Entire Story]

Controlling Behaviour – Are You Guiltier Than You Realise?

Control is actually about power. And so many of us grow up not being taught to embrace personal power in healthy ways, or communicate our needs and wants, we end up adults who resort to underhanded forms of control instead. Some forms of controlling behaviour are quite obvious. There is the ‘control freak’, obsessively tidying their house. … [Read Entire Story]

Can’t Fall In Love? 10 Psychological Issues That Could Be Stopping You

Do you worry that you’ve never actually been in love but are just pretending? Or have you decided that love is silly anyways, you don’t really need it, and it’s time to give up? Psychologically speaking, we do need love. Not the false representation offered by films and novels (more often than not a culture of … [Read Entire Story]

What is Passive Aggressive Behaviour– And Are You Guilty of It?

Passive aggressive behaviour involves using indirect and negative means to express your needs or your feelings because you lack confidence to be up front. Passive aggressive behaviour does not instantly make you a ‘bad’ person. In fact this sort of behaviour often results from an attempt to be a ‘good’ person, as it’s all about avoiding … [Read Entire Story]

Giving Advice- Why it Could Be Ruining Your Relationships

We are a “how to” society these days, bombarded with do-it-yourself videos and TV shows, self-help books, and advice columns. The knock-on effect is that many of us freely dish out unasked for advice without even realising that we are doing so – or what negative affects this might be creating. 5 ways giving advice damages relationships … [Read Entire Story]

Addictive Relationships – 15 Signs You Might Be In One

What is an addictive relationship? An addictive relationship has the same hallmark as any other addiction. It is an experience that is increasingly unstable, where you start to lose sight of who you are and stop taking care of yourself in favour of what you are addicted to – in this case, another person and … [Read Entire Story]

10 Simple Things that Make You More Likable

When we get all caught up in the daily grind it’s easy to overlook some basics regarding our personal conduct. There are certain types of favorable behavior that are not as common as they once were and I think this is a good time to consider a few of them. As it turns out, these are the vary behaviors that make others view you as likable. We all know the difference between good manners and rudeness, but sometimes we can benefit from a little review of the simple things that make a big difference. Hopefully, this list will remind all of us about those often overlooked simple… [Read Entire Story]

Understanding People – 10 Ways to Make It Easier

Constant difficulty relating to others can leave you feeling alienated, frustrated, and overwhelmed by loneliness, and is often a contributing factor for depression.  If understanding people is something you struggle with, what can you do to to make seeing how others think and feel easier? 10 Ways to Start Understanding Others More  1. Expect it to take time and energy. … [Read Entire Story]

The 5 Bad Habits That Cause Relationship Problems

Are you relationships often challenging, full of conflict, and exhausting? It could be that you are practising one or several of the following bad habits that it’s time to question and change. (Not sure what a good relationship is? Read our comprehensive Guide to Relationships for more). 5 Habits That Cause Relationship Problems 1. Assumptions When [Read Entire Story]

Everyone Else’s Fault? How to Stop Projecting Feelings Onto Others

What is projection anyway? You don’t want to go out for the evening, but convince  yourself the other party actually doesn’t find you interesting and that’s why you’re cancelling. You are incredibly attracted to a colleague, but get angry at them for flirting with you. In a fight with your sister you stay very calm, pointing … [Read Entire Story]

Why We Hurt the Ones We Love

It can sometime seem that the more we love a partner or friend, the more we hurt them. What makes this so often the case? 1. You trust them. When we become truly close to someone, we trust them enough we relax. Social conventions drop, and we are more of ourselves around them. Of course … [Read Entire Story]

Is Interdependency What Can Save Your Relationship?

What is interdependency? In psychology, interdependency is a way of relating that involves both parties being able to depend on each other in an egalitarian, non-demanding way. Understanding the different forms of dependency To understand interdependency, it can first help to examine the other ‘dependencies’ you might be more familiar with. Dependency is when you entirely rely … [Read Entire Story]

Doubt in Relationships – Useful or Toxic?

Doubt in relationships – a sudden fear or uncertainty about the person we are with – is inevitable and not necessarily a bad sign. Doubts can feel a shock as they tend to first surface when the high of falling in love is infiltrated by the truth that you are not so entirely simpatico with … [Read Entire Story]

The Dangers of Counterdependency – When You Never Need Anyone

What is counterdependency? Codependency, the habit of gaining your self worth from pleasing others, is something most people know of nowadays. But it’s lesser known opposite, called counterdependency, can be just as much of a problem and is often related to codependency. In fact sometimes a person will switch from one extreme to the other in … [Read Entire Story]

Why We Put the Blame On Others – and the Real Cost We Pay

By Andrea Blundell Blaming – the fine art of making others responsible for all the difficult things that happen to us – is something our modern society seems to support as perfectly acceptable. Reality TV shows force feed us scenes of one character blaming another, and newspapers are awash with stories about how all of society’s … [Read Entire Story]

10 Excuses That Hide Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Emotional abuse (also called psychological abuse or mental abuse) is any form of non-physical abuse designed to cause damage to another person’s mindset and erode their sense of wellbeing. It most often involves someone imposing their power over you in a way that attacks your sense of confidence and makes you depend on them, whether … [Read Entire Story]

Impossible Compassion: Utilizing Directed Compassion to Cure Disease, Save the Environment, Transform Relationships… and Do All Sorts of Other Good Things for Ourselves and Everyone Else

How do we end suffering in our own life and on the planet? How do we bring about seemingly impossible outcomes such as miraculously healing our self from a fatal disease, saving the environment or ending violence and war? In his second book, Edward Mannix takes on our assumptions about what is possible and impossible [More About This Book]

Neale Donald Walsch on Relationships

We are all involved in relationships. Indeed, we are all in relationship with everything and everyone, all of the time. We have a relationship with ourselves, with our family, with our environment, with our work, with each other. Everything that we know and experience about ourselves, we understand within the context created by our relationships.For [More About This Book]

7 Ways to Beat the Boredom Blues

What challenges are you currently stressing over? Is it financial problems, weight issues, depression, or a lack of energy? Could it be self-esteem or relationship problems? Those are truly legitimate concerns, but did you ever consider that many of those issues may actually be symptoms of a less obvious or hidden problem? What hidden problem? … [Read Entire Story]

Words of Wisdom from a Human Being…Who Happens to be Homeless

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The Answer is in Your Handwriting!: Your Relationships – Are They Right for You?

In this, Volume II of Dena Blatt’s Handwriting series, the author analyzes over a hundred handwriting samples from men and women asking the age-old question: “Is my partner right for me, and if not, what should I do about it?” A certified graphoanalyst (handwriting expert) since 1974 and “Dear Dena” advice columnist in True Blue [More About This Book]

Signature for Success: How to Analyze Handwriting and Improve Your Career, Your Relationships, and Your Life

Signatures and handwriting reveal more than we think or even intend. While many perceive Bill Gates as arrogant, his handwriting shows him to be determined, self-confident, and impatient, expected others to live up to his standards. And while Barbara Walters comes across as outgoing, the slant of her handwriting indicates she compensates for her basic [More About This Book]

Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. “Anger is a signal and one worth listening to,” writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her [More About This Book]