Why Can’t I Love My Partner? Am I Not in Love Anymore?

Lately are you worried and asking ‘why can’t I love my partner’? Does it mean you are not in love anymore? Or can the situation be fixed? If you are struggling to have the connection you want with your partner, here are some of the possible reasons why. Really low because your relationship is struggling? [Read Entire Story]

Leaving a Relationship – How Can You Keep It Sane?

Leaving a relationship is never going to go perfectly. A breakup is a breakup because something is broken, after all. But there are certainly things you can do to make leaving a relationship as smooth as possible. How to Leave a Relationship And Protect your Mental Health 1. Get clear that you are [Read Entire Story]

Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship – Life After Betrayal

Your partner cheated, your colleague stole your big idea, your friend shared your secret with everyone… Whatever the situation, betrayal can leave us wondering whether to cut ties or to try rebuilding trust in a relationship. Feeling totally overwhelmed after a breakup or work bust up and need help now? Visit our sister site harleytherapy.com [Read Entire Story]

Getting Over a Breakup -Why Do I Feel So Bad When I Chose to Leave?

You broke up with your partner, and you thought you’d feel great and free. But somehow, that wonderful liberated feeling didn’t last (if it came at all) and you are instead left feeling miserable. Before you think it must mean you are meant to get back together (remember, you broke up for a reason), learn … [Read Entire Story]

Going Downhill. Fast.

A friend of mine wrote a post using skiing as an analogy and not only did I think of this post I wrote 4 years ago, but I also know a few people who need to read it (hint hint). … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No-Contact Break-Up

Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No Contact Break-Up… The No-Contact Rule is the only surefire method for ending the cycles of abuse with narcissists and other emotional manipulators. The dynamic of these relationships is so complex that it takes a very specific strategy to break the mental connection….to put distance between yourself and [More About This Book]

It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy

There’s no doubt about it—breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right [More About This Book]

D-bom Moments

For those new on the blog, this is another abbreviation we use around here, so this is how it began: “We see and understand more about our behaviors. We come aware. And aware. And aware. . . Often, we feel … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

New Workbook Button

This is the workbook button WITHOUT shipping charges!!! Sorry about that…PayPal error!!! [Read Entire Story]

First Day of Summer Workbook Special

To kick off an awesome healing summer, we’re offering the workbook – on line (fillable PDF) or off line (regular PDF) for $17.99 for the next 48 hours! It is normally $29.99 for non-members and $19.99 for members so this … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

The Switch Off…or not

Several weeks after my separation from my first husband I met a guy who seemed to be nice and funny and caring. I was still, very much, a hurting unit but he gave me attention in a way I had … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

5/25 Check in

How is everyone doing??? [Read Entire Story]

WWL2M Facebook Group

We are moving away from the Yahoo group (too much spam) and onto Facebook so we can ascertain identities. It is a closed group but will become a secret group by the end of the week. If you want to … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

May NC Chips

It has been a long time since we did NC Chips and there is a lot about NC in the recent threads so I think it’s time for one. For those of you who are new, this post explains the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Registration, spammers and “Really?”

to combat spammers and keep actual people from being mistaken as robots I now authenticate users as they register. There are about 100 spammers trying to register each day and I just delete them a few times a day. To … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Signs of Relationship Recovery

I run this a couple of times a year. It’s from Women Who Love Too Much but it can be applied for anyone recovering from unhealthy relationships. These are signs that you are INDEED recovering. As someone who went from … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Standards – Are Yours High Enough?

“You get what you put up with.” – Anonymous My first post-divorce boyfriend wrote me a letter once. I was so thrilled because even though we hadn’t spoken in weeks and I couldn’t figure out why we were not speaking, … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]


to combat spammers and keep actual people from being mistaken as robots I now authenticate users as they register. There are about 100 spammers trying to register each day and I just delete them. To register to post on the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

On Being Alone

What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be ~ Ellen Burstyn Many times we stay in unhealthy relationships because we are afraid of being “alone”. In reality we are afraid of being with ourselves. And … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Achieving HAPPY

“If we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.” – Edith Wharton The holidays tend to push someone else’s idea of happiness upon us. We are told Christmas is the “most wonderful time of the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

May 16th Retreat

I have to let Natalie know if we’re on or not and I need to know who is interested by 4/15. I am working with Founder’s Inn & Spa in Virginia Beach VA and Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim to … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Hangout – Bootcamps

Very excited that the first Bootcamp Hangout is SOLD OUT in about 12 hours! Awesome group that is going to be participating. Good mix of men/women and different lengths of relationships and breakup time. We will report back when it … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

4/9 Check in thread

The last one appears to be lost in the shuffle. HOW IS EVERYONE DOING??? Check in here! [Read Entire Story]

May 16th Women’s Retreat

We have not opened registration yet, but Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim is coming from London to co-host with me at the Founder’s Inn & Spa in Virginia Beach. If you are interested, please let me know so I can … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]