Private Mental Health Care or Public Health Service? How to Decide

The rise of Skype therapy now means that booking private mental health care is more accessible and affordable than ever. But the NHS (public health care in the UK) still provides a good service to many people. What are the main differences you need to know between public and private mental health care? Private mental … [Read Entire Story]

Feeling Spiritually Stuck?

People often get stuck after a spiritual awakening and in general on any spiritual path. There are many reasons why this happens, but one of the biggest ones is fear. People are afraid to let go of who they think they are and embrace being nobody. In that space of nobody-ness, they are infinite, but the ego does not understand this. It thinks you have to be a somebody and that your somebody-ness is critical to survival.Because… [Read Entire Story]

The Steps to Wellbeing – And Are You Making These Classic Mistakes?

You take care of your physical health – but what about your emotional and mental health? Are you taking the right steps to wellbeing? Can’t find your way to wellbeing lately? And need support?  Our new booking site helps you find a Skype or phone counsellor quickly and easily, no matter your budget or where you [Read Entire Story]

Donating for an August Talk About Attachments

This August, I am intending to do an online talk about releasing attachments. I often use the terminology of releasing “ego issues” when I talk about letting go of attachments, but the “issue” term primarily focuses on the stuff that we know causes us pain. This talk about releasing attachments will more broadly encompass the ego as a whole. In particular, I’ll discuss the process of releasing attachments that we like.As always, I’m happy to answer your questions at the talk.If you’d like to support this talk, please consider making a donation. … [Read Entire Story]

Always Thinking Something Bad is Going to Happen? Here’s Why

We all sometimes worry that something bad is going to happen. And the reality is that sometimes things DO go wrong. Life is far from perfect. But if your head is always full of worried thoughts? And if you spend most days (if not all) stressed that something bad will happen to you, your loved … [Read Entire Story]

Releasing Attachments You Like

Attachments create suffering.This is one of the most fundamental truths that any serious spiritual person must know. Without attachment, we are at peace with whatever life offers us. With attachments, we are constantly moving from states of contentment to agitation as we attempt to protect, avoid, acquire, and get rid of the different things and experiences that come to us.Usually, the practice of letting go of attachments starts with letting go of the &quot… [Read Entire Story]

Borderline Personality Disorder Relationships – Should You Date Him or Her?

Borderline personality relationships – avoid, or maybe? There is a lot of misinformation about borderline personality disorder on the internet that seeks to demonise those with BPD. The fact is that people with BPD are, well, people. Unique individuals who can’t all be painted with one brush despite sharing some symptoms.  Does that mean you should … [Read Entire Story]

Leaving a Relationship – How Can You Keep It Sane?

Leaving a relationship is never going to go perfectly. A breakup is a breakup because something is broken, after all. But there are certainly things you can do to make leaving a relationship as smooth as possible. How to Leave a Relationship And Protect your Mental Health 1. Get clear that you are [Read Entire Story]

A Spiritual Thing Happened on the Way to the Market

One time there was a very serious spiritual student who wanted spiritual freedom more than anything else. He found a spiritual master and got up to ask him a question as soon as he could."Dear master, please…."But the master cut him off before he finished his sentence. "My good man. We are all out of milk. Could you get some?"Taken aback, the student objected, "But I have a very important question. I… [Read Entire Story]

What is the Dark Triad?

Psychologists use the term ‘the dark triad’ to describe three hostile personality traits. People who have these traits use other people for their own gain. A word about personality traits and disorders Psychological disorders and traits are not illnesses you can see under a microscope. They are terms created by mental health professionals to describe [&# [Read Entire Story]

Holiday Romance and Mental Health – Is a Fling What You Need?

Some holiday romances  become happy memories. But life is not a novel or film, and it’s also possible for a holiday romance to leave us feeling deflated. Is now the right time to have a holiday romance, or is it just going to leave you feeling bad about yourself, or worse? Here are good questions to ask … [Read Entire Story]

Updated Spiritual Realizations and Uncertainty After Releasing an Issue Posts

I'm continuing my blog post updating spree to try and sync up some of my more important spiritual awakening blog posts with my current style of sharing. Some of them have held up well. The post about the feelings that may come after releasing an issue didn't need a ton of work. The post about spiritual realizations was a serious re-write.Understanding realizations and how they can both be enjoyable and unenjoyable was one of a number of points I emphasized in that post. The new feelings after releasing an issue is just a really important experience to understand because otherwise, it is so easy to backslide into old patterns even when we've… [Read Entire Story]

Teen Mental Health – How Can You Get the Help You Need?

How can you get help with teen mental health? And what pitfalls do you need to look out for?  Being a teenager is hard enough. If you also suffer from anxiety, depression, childhood trauma, or other mental health issues, it can feel overwhelming. But there IS help. How to Find Support With Teen Mental Health … [Read Entire Story]

“I Want to Fall In Love” – How to Be Ready For Real Love

Do you want to fall in love, but struggle to let yourself? Or perhaps you feel you never even meet anyone you can connect to? Or nobody ever wants to be in a relationship with you? What can you do if you want to fall in love but it seems so hard? [Know there’s a [Read Entire Story]

Skipping Steps on the Spiritual Path

The title of this spiritual blog post should make it obvious where I am going with this.You can't skip steps on the spiritual path.But people sure do try.One of my more favorite attempts at avoiding stuff is the "oneness" ego trick. The ego hears that there is nothing it can do to get closer to oneness. We are already one. Therefore, it believes that intellectually understanding this spiritual truth is enough. The ego doesn't investigate itself further nor all the attachments and illusions it has. That's all part of the oneness, right? So what difference does it make if you have a spiritual practice or not?There's a litany of problems with this thinking, and one of the central… [Read Entire Story]

Recording: How to Be Your New "Spiritual" Self

I regularly get a variety of questions that go something like this:How do I get my friends to understand this new spiritual path I’m on?How do I explain to my partner how to be spiritual?How do I find work that aligns with my spiritual truth?These and other questionss are essentially asking the same underlying question: “How do I be my new ‘spiritual’ self?”While they sound rational enough, few people question these questions to find out where they are coming from. This typically leads to what I call “re-papering the prison cell walls.”When someone has a major spiritual shift or even a spiritual awakening, it’s like the wallpaper (illusions) covering the walls of the prison cell… [Read Entire Story]

Denial in Psychology- Are You Using This Defence Mechanism?

Denial in psychology originates from  psychoanalytic theory and its ideas about ‘defence mechanisms‘. What are defence mechanisms? Defence mechanisms are unconscious forms of self-deception we use to avoid anxiety and emotional pain, or to ensure we are ‘acceptable’ to others. Denial is a very popular defence mechanism. It is when we act [Read Entire Story]

Can’t Stop Crying? And Crying For No Reason?

Yes, tears can be a great emotional release, helping us process sadness or even overwhelming joy. But crying for no reason? And can’t stop crying all the time? Then it’s more likely a sign of something else that needs your attention. 9 Factors That See You Crying For No Reason Here are 9 reasons why you … [Read Entire Story]

Updated Posts About Healing, Spiritual Ego, and the Spiritual Path

At the time of this post, I've been blogging for almost 8 straight years. That's a lot of spiritual blog posts. Some have stood the test of time, and some have become dated in terms of how I share my thoughts about spirituality. As such, I've been taking time to re-work some of these older posts … [Read Entire Story]

Traumatic Bonding – How to Break Free of Trauma Bonds

Traumatic bonding happens when we are in an abusive relationship but feel unable to leave. We hold onto a promised better future, focus on the positives and ignore the rest, and feel a sense of loyalty to the person everyone else says we must leave. So how can you break free of a trauma bond … [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: How to Be Your New "Spiritual" Self

I regularly get a variety of questions that go something like this:How do I get my friends to understand this new spiritual path I’m on?How do I explain to my partner how to be spiritual?How do I find work that aligns with my spiritual truth?These and other questionss are essentially asking the same underlying question: “How do I be my new spiritual self?”While they sound rational enough… [Read Entire Story]

Worry and Anxiety – And Why The Difference Matters

Worry and anxiety  tend to be interchangeable in daily conversations. “I’m so anxious about my upcoming test” means the same as, “I am so worried”. But when it comes to psychology, worry and anxiety are two different things. And one is more serious than the other. … [Read Entire Story]

Levels of Conscious Awareness

Any regular reader of this spiritual blog knows that I don't like talking about "levels" of things. It's simply too easy for the ego to grab onto this concept and think they are "better" or "worse" than something or someone else. Someone with self-worth issues may feel like they are "bad" or not "spiritual enough," and other people (often with very similar self-worth issues) may decide that they are better or at a higher vibration than others. So by and large, I find this concept useless or detrimental to people's spiritual development.With all of that said, there are times when understanding spiritual development through levels… [Read Entire Story]

Postnatal Anxiety – Are You a Sufferer?

Postnatal depression has received a lot of attention in the last few years. And yet a recent study from a Canadian University found that up to three times as many women suffered postnatal anxiety than suffered postnatal depression. Postnatal anxiety – let’s get talking It’s great that PND is now talked about. But the problem is … [Read Entire Story]