Awakened and Being at a Loss for Words

Spiritual awakening and other major spiritual shifts can leave us at a total loss for words.And why would we have words for these shifts?Our words and vocabulary are built around what we know, and so if we are taken into a brand new experience and/or set of experiences, then we very rarely know how to describe what is going on. It's to be expected.What comes next is a time of finding those words and learning how to understand what has arisen. The more powerful the spiritual experience, the more time it may take to settle down and understand. Additionally, if someone awakens, a lot of energy moves and creates a lot of … [Read Entire Story]

Losing Your Gender and Sexual Identities

The entire ego is let go in spiritual freedom.Not part of it. Not half of it. Not 89.65% of it.All of it.So any and every aspect of the ego is on the spiritual chopping block, and that includes gender and sexual egos/identities.Losing these types of identities can be shocking for many people. A LOT of social emphasis is put into these types of identities, and unfortunately, some major religions have decided that some identities are okay and others are not. Let me be clear. The Divine Presence has no preference. It does not limit us in the ways we can express ourselves.However, we place limits on ourselves, and many of these limits … [Read Entire Story]

Subconscious Processing and Awakening

We don't understand everything immediately at all levels. In a culture that is often very mind-centric, it seems important to emphasize this reality again and again.As usual, I love the metaphor of dance in regards to spiritual integration. How quickly can you intellectually understand the steps in a dance? Pretty fast. Depending on your mind, you may only need to read and watch the moves a couple of times, and then boom, you got 'em in your mind. But can you dance?Probably not or at least not very well. And can you dance with all your heart and soul in the steps? Definitely not.In this way, we learn to appreciate that the mind, heart, body… [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: How to Be with Awakened Energy

Awakening one’s energy has become an aspiration for many spiritual seekers, but there’s a lot to know before attempting to do so.And there’s a lot more to understand if your energy is already awakened.Awakened energy should be viewed like a river. It has a force and direction all its own, and you aren’t going to control it. Learning to be with it, however, is far more than just a “go with a flow” mentality. If you try to “go with the flow” in an actual river, you’d end up hitting a whole lot of rocks, capsizing, or getting … [Read Entire Story]

How Do I Make Decisions from No-mind?

One of the most common questions that I get revolves around how to live when you no longer act from the ego. The above question is one way of expressing it, but here are some common variants:How will I work a job staying as the witness?How do take care of my kids from the space of presence?If I don't think, then won't I just screw and fight and drink all the time?This last question presumes that thinking isn't possible in the space of awareness/no-mind and that we'll be lost to our most basic impulses without the the ego.There are other variants of the question. But essentially, the ego presumes that its way … [Read Entire Story]

Become a Regular Donor

Today, I'm officially announcing an opportunity for you to become a regular donor to this spiritual awakening blog and my spiritual teaching work.Down below, you can click the subscribe button. The subscription is a $15 a month donation that continues as long as you so choose. This regular donation helps to bring more certainty to my financial support.(If you receive my blog posts via email and don&#… [Read Entire Story]

The Path to Nowhere

I've written about today's topic in a number of ways. My blog post called, "Be Nobody," is one. The video about "The Freedom of a Meaningless Life" is another, but it just feels like it is time to return to this topic in yet another way.There is nowhere to go on the spiritual path.There. I said it again. We good?Probably not.We live in a society that believes that action is required all the time. But more specifically, we unconsciously believe a lot of things about ourselves and about … [Read Entire Story]

Repairing an Awakening Gone Bad

A spiritual awakening is a discovery of the truth. It is an opening to our true nature. It is a return from ego illusions into the reality of the present moment. It is many, many things, but it is not bad.So how do so many awakenings go badly?Resistance. It's not the awakening going badly. It's the person's total lack of preparation for… [Read Entire Story]

Expressing Love in a Cynical Society

Let's get right to it:I love you.Immediately, all kinds of responses have been triggered in people, depending on their relationship to love. Some of you accepted this easily. Others who are more open felt it. Yet others may have even experienced an energetic surge ripple through letting you know just how deeply I have expressed this.But far more rejected this simple statement. The basic responses are as follows:Doubt. Because we are taught to have all kinds of beliefs about when and how love should be offered, doubt … [Read Entire Story]

Recording: How to Avoid Creating a Spiritual Ego

Many people are focused on other people’s egos and what others are doing wrong. But it’s always easier to find the error in another than in ourselves. This is precisely why doing inner work is so important. Turning our attention inwards gives us clarity about who we are and who we are trying to be. This clarity is one of many key tools to help us avoid creating… [Read Entire Story]

Donating to Support the Blog

If you can believe it, I've been writing this blog for more than 8 years at the time of this post. It's pretty incredible. In the last 3 and 1/2 years, I've been fully supported financially because of many of you.Thank you.As it often seems, the costs of doing business continue to grow. One of the newer costs is … [Read Entire Story]

Imbalances Caused by Spiritual Growth

I frequently get questions from people when they feel imbalanced in some way. What do I mean by imbalanced? I mean the mind is upset, or there are a lot of turbulent emotions. Sometimes people have very strong physical sensations or energetic experiences. These experiences are not part of the person's usual set of experiences of themselves, or they're lasting longer than usual.So if someone is processing through a lot of fear, it may last longer than they're used to feeling scared. This fear isn't a "balanced" state. It's an agitated state, and sometimes people get into these imbalanced states for awhile as they grow. Many people worry that something is going wrong.In general, most painful experiences that … [Read Entire Story]

Spiritual Awakening Master Class Announcement

Hi all! This is Jim Tolles. This post is a short announcement for an interview I recently did with Lindsey Fitzgibbons. She’s hosting a series of interviews on spiritual topics. In our interview, I discussed more about how I choose to teach, about spiritual freedom, and some other topics.Below I’ve pasted information about what is being called a “spiritual awakening master class.” Feel free to read below and sign up if it resonates.Also, none of the following copy are my words, and this isn’t a series of classes that I am offering. I only have one 30 minute interview in it. This is just the marketing language I’ve been given, and as many of my long-term readers know, this isn’t how I talk about… [Read Entire Story]

Are You Interested in Working with a Spiritual Teacher?

Are You Ready to Dive Into Spiritual Work?There are many reasons that people become interested in working with a spiritual teacher, and part of the journey to truly be "teachable" involves understanding why you're even interested in the spiritual path.When you know why you're really on the spiritual path, that makes it so much easier to figure out what kind of teacher with whom to work. You understand… [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: How to Avoid Creating a Spiritual Ego

Many people are focused on other people’s egos and what others are doing wrong. But it’s always easier to find the error in another than in ourselves. This is precisely why doing inner work is so important. Turning our attention inwards gives us clarity about who we are and who we are trying to be. This clarity is one of many key tools to help us avoid creating a spiritual ego.A spiritual ego is nothing… [Read Entire Story]

Updated Apathy and Spiritually Stuck Blog Posts

My work on updating important older spiritual posts continues. This time around, I updated a post about getting stuck after a spiritual awakening as well as the sense of apathy and indifference that can arise after awakening. Both of these topics are awakening-specific rather than speaking to the many other ways people feel stuck or are apathetic in life or on the spiritual path. As a general [Read Entire Story]

Recording: Releasing Attachments

At the heart of the path to spiritual freedom is releasing attachments. Whatever we are attached to can bring about suffering, including attachments that seem to create good things in our lives.Consider that you really love your most intimate relationship. You’re attached to it. Then, like all things in the human world, it goes away. Now, that attachment makes you upset.Or during the relationship, the attachment puts all kinds of expectations upon your partner. If they act the way you want, you’re happy. If they don’t, then you’re not. You are suffering, and you are… [Read Entire Story]

Completing Cycles and Crossing Thresholds

Several years ago, I wrote a post about coming to completion, and it feels like it’s high past the time to talk more about what it means to come to completion and crossing thresholds into new cycles in life.Have you ever had a moment when you felt simply done with something? Not “over it.” Not deciding that it’s time to move on. You are simply done. You feel … [Read Entire Story]

Updated Dark Night and Spiritual Pain Blog Posts

The ongoing renovation of old blog posts continues! This time around, I completely re-wrote posts on spiritual awakening and pain as well as the post about the dark night of the soul. Hopefully, they are clearer than they were before.As a short aside, thanks to all my donors. All your donations help [Read Entire Story]

Recording: Feeling Split from your Ego

The first time someone feels split from the ego can be quite shocking. Since most people aren’t prepared for such an experience, a person can jump to all kinds of conclusions and have all kinds of reactions. If someone doesn’t resist, the person can have a very beautiful experience. If someone does resist, they can freak out and leap to crazy ideas of thinking they’re possessed by a demon or entity!Nope. No possession. You’re just finding out that you’re not your ego.Then, many people go back to their typical identification with their egos, and nothing further happens. However, some people let go just enough that they don’t go back to full identification. Instead, they feel caught in… [Read Entire Story]

Online Talk: Releasing Attachments

At the heart of the path to spiritual freedom is releasing attachments. Whatever we are attached to can bring about suffering, including attachments that seem to create good things in our lives.Consider that you really love your most intimate relationship. You’re attached to it. Then, like all things in the human world, it goes away. Now, that attachment makes you upset.Or during the relationship, the attachment puts all kinds of expectations upon your partner. If they act the way you want, you’re happy. If they don’t, then you’re not. You are suffering, and you are causing your partner to suffer to meet your demands.There are all kinds of ways that ego attachments cause suffering and every kind of scenario … [Read Entire Story]

Feeling Spiritually Stuck?

People often get stuck after a spiritual awakening and in general on any spiritual path. There are many reasons why this happens, but one of the biggest ones is fear. People are afraid to let go of who they think they are and embrace being nobody. In that space of nobody-ness, they are infinite, but the ego does not understand this. It thinks you have to be a somebody and that your somebody-ness is critical to survival.Because… [Read Entire Story]

Donating for an August Talk About Attachments

This August, I am intending to do an online talk about releasing attachments. I often use the terminology of releasing “ego issues” when I talk about letting go of attachments, but the “issue” term primarily focuses on the stuff that we know causes us pain. This talk about releasing attachments will more broadly encompass the ego as a whole. In particular, I’ll discuss the process of releasing attachments that we like.As always, I’m happy to answer your questions at the talk.If you’d like to support this talk, please consider making a donation. … [Read Entire Story]

Releasing Attachments You Like

Attachments create suffering.This is one of the most fundamental truths that any serious spiritual person must know. Without attachment, we are at peace with whatever life offers us. With attachments, we are constantly moving from states of contentment to agitation as we attempt to protect, avoid, acquire, and get rid of the different things and experiences that come to us.Usually, the practice of letting go of attachments starts with letting go of the &quot… [Read Entire Story]